something that people fail to realize or recognize is that no matter how much you try to change, alter and manipulate, people are a product of their environment. The whole nature vs. nurture argument here shows that nature wins out. lets take case in point of a friend of mine that for humility's sake we will call "lauren". at 5, she was sexually abused by her second cousin and then had an older kid who was like family to her molest her. oddly enough, she was the oldest of 4 kids where the 2 youngest had the same father who was in their lives and the second kid had his dad (somewhat) in his life.
now, the oldest girl had a lot of weight on her shoulders in that the reason that her father was no where near around had to do with a falling out that he had with her mom. she feels that her mom resented her due to the fact that her mother had a life, a plan made out that included athletics and academics and being pregnant as a freshman/sophomore in college on a athletic scholarship ain't gonna cut it. can you do a lay-up 6 months pregnant? so she naturally felt the weight of all frustration in her direction on a regular basis. throughout her adolescent, pre-teen and teen life, screaming was a part of routine. of course when you have chaos and drama it will feed and fuel the rebellion stage with full force. there was only a 5 year difference between her brother and herself but her youngest siblings showed a 15 year age gap. life as a living hell for her, built-in child care to mommy dearest.
growing up, as early as 5, she could remember not wanting to go to that house everyday because he would be there and he would touch her. in the beginning, it was like a game and nothing went too far. But soon after it gets worse, more hardcore.............
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